Relationship expert Joro Olumofin has pointed out what a single lady suffer when their friends are getting married. He said that in Nigeria, being single as a female is like a curse as they are made to feel inferior about their status.
Diary of a Single Nigerian Lady. (Juxtaposition of Cognition I.e I put myself in the shoes of a single Nigerian lady)
As much as I love Nigeria, our culture can be subjective and bias. Being single is like an illness or a curse. The “when are you getting married” question? irritates me. I can’t propose to myself. I hate being in Nigeria now. I wish I could move to Europe where I won’t be judged. It’s bad enough that society and family make you feel inferior because you’re single. Then friends that were single with you will also cut you off after they get married. I’m actually done”.
Dear Married friend (s), those of you who have decided to cut me off because you think you’re now better than me. God Bless you!
1⃣ I bought your pricy Asoebi & wedding gown (50 -70k)
2⃣ I paid makeup fee for your wedding (15k)
3⃣ I traveled out of Abuja / Lagos 3 times with you for introduction, thanksgiving, and engagement
4⃣I participated and planned your hen night like it was my own
5⃣ I carried your wedding gown and followed you all day on your special day
6⃣ I wiped your tears & made sure sweat didn’t ruin your makeup on your big day
7⃣ I served your guests like I would serve my own
8⃣ I protected all your secrets and gave you moral support until you entered your home happily
9⃣ I answered all your calls and text at any hour of the day. *If I didn’t I’m Enemy of Progress or a Hater*
Then you got pregnant, you hid it from me like I’m the witch or “Aje” in your village eating all the children. I found out you were pregnant on Instagram like everyone else. Really?
You hardly pick my calls anymore, you don’t reply messages but you like pictures all day on IG wedding blogs and change your WhatsApp DP. Am I now inferior to you because you’re a bride? When you needed me why didn’t you ignore? When I get married will you want to be My friend again?
Your husband keeps asking why we aren’t close, what did I do wrong?
A lot of single ladies go through this and worse.
