A lady identified as Jane Alfred has narrated how she was pursued out of her marital home by her husband after an argument and maltreatment.
Speaking on Tuesday, she stated that it has happened on several occasions but she always goes back to apologize to restore peace in her home but chose otherwise on the last incident as he threw her and their son out of his house at night.
Revealing that she was afraid to be termed a divorcee but she had to leave to save herself and her son, especially being an only child.
Her story reads below;
“I have been scared of being called a divorcée, I have been scared of being addressed as a single mum, I have been scared of being tagged as one who had a failed marriage, and what the society will think of me.
I went through a domestic marriage and a high rate of infidelity, I believe any man who wishes for the betterment of his home will secretly do whatever he wishes to do just to protect his home mine was done and when I portray any sign of caution I will be beaten and sent out at times I held my son so tight thinking he will leave me if am carrying my son he will drag my son from my hands and continue will the beating.
I fought for the marriage in every dimension I was a hardworking wife I didn’t make financial demands except what I was given, I respected and loved him, and my love was stronger I praised him in public and told people how good he was to me including here on Facebook not knowing at times some post was made with bruises on my face People were envious of me telling me how lucky I am to have a loving husband I will smile and say is God oo I beg when he’s wrong and when am wrong just to keep my marriage.
Even as a married woman my mum still takes care of my Education and my needs all in the name I don’t want my husband to spend, I took his family as mine cos I wanted a family being an only child hasn’t been fair on me which only I my mum and him was aware I bragged so much about him even when I wasn’t benefiting from I knew I never married him because of what I stand to achieve I married him out of love and sincerity.
Each time I was beaten I would be sent out and whatever he got for me would be taken away yet I would come back begging it was tagged that I wasn’t being a good wife for the fact I kept coming back to beg shows that all fault was from me cos no woman will be treated this way and she remains except there is something she is not doing right. I was scared of raising my son in a separate home not just because he was my First man and a man who took my pride, but even while I was going through those pains I still wore in smiling face people envied me not knowing what I was passing through to the extend I was beating while pregnant. I encountered several miscarriages before God blessed me with my Son Chibuikem.
I clothe myself and my son while he takes the glory the few people who knew what I was going through encouraged me.
I was scared of sharing whatever I was going through with his family knowing he would be supported and couldn’t share with my mum cos she wasn’t really strong enough and the few times I told her about what I was going through all she did was to cry and told me to pray about that all will be fine due to I don’t wish to see her cry again I couldn’t share whatever I was going through with her again.
The last time I was beaten and sent out I knew I had a life outside of this marriage I knew I shouldn’t raise my son in a violent home I picked up courage and left knowing it was the will of God for the fact I never left on my own I was chased out with m son for no reason regardless of it I never stopped him having access to his change even while he wasn’t taking responsibilities as a father. A few people I shared how I was chased out by my husband asked me if I cheated each time that question came up tears flowed out from my eyes I know, I didn’t know what sex was all about till he came into my life. May I know no Good if I cheated on him while under his roof and if I am innocent I leave it to God.
A lot of people were against me my name was tarnished even people who knew nothing about me said a lot about me for living in my home even when they never knew what I was going through and did not hear my side of the story. Some came to and said your husband said a lot about you I didn’t listen to anyone cos I was never expecting him to say any good thing about me cos I didn’t come back begging as usual and I believed God knows everything. “He who supports evil shall see evil”
“It was clear to me that you can’t keep a man who doesn’t wish to be kept or Forced into Love”
I was ready to take responsibility for my son I cried and pretended like it was all well it wasn’t easy being called a single mum I was left in the middle with nowhere and no one to run to or talk to the only person I had left was God.
AM A SURVIVAL”
