A medical doctor, Max, has said that no help given by the African parents is genuine and selfless as they usually use it to blackmail their children into doing what they want them to do.
He shared this on his social media page saying that the African parents look forward to sitting back and eating the fruit of their labour and cash in on their investment.
He also opined that most times, the children do not see through the scheme but as they grow older, they question a lot of things and also their upbringing.
He wrote, “The truth about African parents generally is:
Hardly any help given by them is genuine and completely selfless. In most cases, they are laden with all sorts of unspoken expectations. They “sacrifice” a lot for the children in the hope that sometime in future, the will be able.
To sit back at and “reap the fruits of their labour” via their children, a cliche forged and polished in the most ruthless selfishness and lack of consideration while cloaked in the most exquisite garments of “family togetherness”.
Deep down, they hope to cash in on their investment, to show the world their report sheet of excellence in the success of their children while strutting about like peacocks in a chicken yard.
At first, the children don’t see through all these, but then they grow up, mature through their experiences and begin to question some values and their upbringing. They are filled with confusion and uncertainty. Things begin not to add up. Any one of them who dares to raise even a concern over the run of affairs over the years is tagged a rebel, rude, unappreciative…A BLACK SHEEP.
They try to find their way out but they find that it isn’t so easy to extricate themselves as they had already immersed themselves in this same prison of a family bond, the rules of which they had followed as children and adolescents without question…OUT OF TRUST.
This is one reason parents never see their children as grown till they die. They see their children as their personal properties, gifts given to them from God for their personal usage the way they deem fit to.
Hardly do they ever recognize that these children are independent human spirits who have choices of their own. They want to do EVERYTHING for their children in the name of love for them, hampering their personal progress in the process, for no mechanic becomes proficient at his work without staining his hands with grease and sustaining injuries, no matter how mild.
The indolent children however enjoy this poison cos it massages their love for ease, till their parents are no more and they suddenly face the harsh reality of life and find that they can’t do a thing for themselves. They frittered away their time enjoying all the parents did for them when they were supposed to be out there standing on their feet.
Unfortunately, the few who are strong enough to break away from this “family bond” suffer immensely in the morning, become strong in the evening, only to repeat the cycle with their own children cos what their parents handed down to them, unknowing to them, formed their subconscious. The cycle is then repeated again and again……a vicious cycle in many cases!
Where are those conscious enough to break this for good?
Just a frank rant!”
