Writer Toni Tones has told women to stop pretending about bad sex or fake orgasm but learn to communicate their wants and pleasure to their partners for a better relationship.
She said this on her Twitter page stating that honest dialogue in the bedroom is necessary for partners as not everyone is great in the bedroom.
She wrote, “Ladies, we do ourselves and our partners a disservice when we pretend we’re enjoying bad sex, fake orgasms, or keep quiet about what we enjoy, in an attempt to preserve feelings and egos. Be open and honest about your wants, likes and dislikes. Sex is for our enjoyment too.”
“Sadly society has led many women (and men) to believe sex is something that happens ‘to’ women as if they are passive participants. We aren’t. Women enjoy intimacy just as much as men do. Women have sexual preferences and need too.”
“Ladies, if you don’t enjoy elements of the sex you have with your partner, talk to them about the things you’d like to do less/more of. This is easier to discuss when you create an open space for them to do the same, so also ask them if there’s anything they would change. When it comes to encouraging helpful and honest dialogue about sex, stripping away your ego is important. We’re not all expert lovers in the bedroom, despite what we want to think. However, we can become much better lovers to our partners with the help of open communication.”
