A man, Osi Suave, has narrated how he almost lost his friend to an abusive and manipulative wife. He narrated that his friend who was the life of the party changed after getting married.
The friend started being distant to him and their circle. He thought something was up and reached out to him but all effort to help him when it was obvious that his wife was abusive was all to no avail.
Until he and his friends contributed money and sent the victim to his siblings abroad where he’s currently undergoing therapy.
Read his tweets, “Took a while but finally have approval from my boy to tweet this.
Manipulative people are sociopaths stay away from them.
I grew up with this kid, and we used to ride bikes around Thompson avenue and went to vacation bible school at ikoyi Baptist church for years. Was the life of the party and the happiest person I knew. Went to college in America and we somehow found a way to always catch up.
3 years ago he married what I thought was the most amazing person. And the wedding was all shades of romantic and fun. Then before the first year anniversary of the marriage, we noticed he started being distant, he exited all the group chats and blocked all of us on all social media platforms.
Very out of character for him and the rest of the guys took it P.
But I was worried. I’d run into him at the mall or sometimes at church.
I particularly noticed he would have scratch marks on his hands and neck.
He would say it was their dog
Asked him why he blocked us on social media. He said he was trying to take a break. Then I stopped seeing him altogether. Like he was deliberately avoiding me and anyone that knew him from way back.
His fam lived abroad. So it was literally just him. Then one day he came to mine at 2 am. I was having one of my sleepless nights. As the security mentioned I had a visitor
I even thought it was a babe sef lol
My boy was skinny and had scabies. I knew scabies when I saw it cos I went to boarding school. To avoid the risk of me catching it. We sat on the pavement outside my building and spoke till it was time for me to go to work.
Arranged for him to see a Doctor. And apparently, his madam had locked him out for coming home late. So over time, he had grown accustomed to sleeping on the floor outside his own house and whatever makeshift place he could find.
He also said he goes home late cos he was afraid and wanted to just go straight to bed
Hence the constant lockouts.
I was so livid and was going to confront the madam
I had never seen my boy so fearful and violent before
He just had a massive panic attack and begged me not to. After that episode, I didn’t hear from him again. Phones were perpetually off and I just cut him off
Cos I felt like an adult he should know the best thing for him.
Then I was in London in Jan of last year and ran into his sister when I was at a restaurant at the 02. Was waiting for the davido concert to start
She said something was wrong as the communication with him was always initiated by his madam. And he just sounded like he was trapped.
I promised to check on him when I got back but I never did. Cos was still angry at the fact that he doesn’t hear the word.
One random Sunday I ran into him on my way from church. And insisted that I followed him home to at least see madam. It was a grand Prix weekend so I was watching the race and I heard a slapping sound come from the kitchen
With the words
“DO YOU KNOW WHY I SLAPPED YOU”
HE SAID YES
“ITS BECAUSE I FORGOT TO REFILL THE CYLINDER”
That was it. I told him he needed to leave this marriage. He said no.
That he loved her and he was at fault and deserved the slap because he should have known better.
I almost started crying cos my guy was gone and this babe was eventually going to kill him. Long story short. We pooled money together and got him to move to his family abroad.
He is in therapy now and in such a good place mentally.
I cant share the things he went through but I am happy he is free now. Manipulative people are the smartest people around
They would fuck your life up.
The circle of manipulation always ends in domestic violence
So pls if your partner is showing signs of manipulation and is being dismissive towards your feelings
Pls run
As there is nothing romantic about love that breaks your spirit.”
