An ex-victim of domestic violence, Mercy Makinde, have spoken out about it, she said that most victims think that they provoked the assault but experience has made her realize that it is unwarranted. She also insisted that real men do not use violence and therefore, called on people on the fight against it.
The picture on the left is me 12 years ago! Then a Victim now a Victor!
I am one of the few fortunate to be alive. Some left in a body bag and while many still suffer Domestic violence because it remains widespread and is often considered “socially acceptable” in Nigeria.
This is the reason family, friends and even some religious bodies do not see domestic violence as such a big deal. They believe it’s the outcome of provocation and admonish victims never to annoy their abusers. But these abusers don’t hit their bosses or colleagues who provoke them at work. They exercise restraints!
Domestic Violence IS NOT A RESULT OF PROVOCATION. I’m writing this in capital letters and I hope it sinks in! Violence and Abuse is a tool used to enforce control, power and fear in a relationship or marriage and not a momentary expression of anger.
So stop judging victims by saying they were battered because of an imagined, perceived or rumoured wrong or asking them annoying questions like “what did you do that made him beat you”. Questions like these are unintelligent and insensitive.
Violence against women isn’t cultural, its criminal. Real men don’t use violence! We must all join hands to eliminate violence against women and girls. Our women must feel and know that they are not alone!
There is NO EXCUSE for Violence Against Women. And yes, no excuse for violence against men either.
Don’t justify it….don’t judge them!
I am a Victim turned Victor ready to help other victims. Join in, let’s make a difference!
